Have "Your" Wedding

There are many traditions and customs surrounding weddings. So many of the things we do at and for our wedding are identical to the bride who is getting married next weekend and the one who got married last weekend. Insert personality! I love it when a bride breaks out of the “traditional” box a little. I think your wedding should have some of you in it. Some ways I’ve seen brides & grooms show some personality are with their shoes. Sassy red pumps for her and converse for him. I’ve seen it all from boots, flip flops, ruby red slippers, to Danskos, Romeos and glass slippers. I’ve also seen people dedicate their wedding to a loved one who has passed or ask that gifts be made to a cause important to the couple. This certainly makes the event very personal for the bride and groom.
At my own wedding (eight years ago) I wanted guests to get a sense of who we were as a couple while at our wedding reception. On each table we had a picture of us at some point during our court ship with a favorite quote or poem that we felt epitomized us. We also sent out a “save the date” that described our courtship and engagement. These things gave our guests that may have only known us as individuals, a chance to get to know us before and at the wedding and be more invested emotionally in the event.
I get asked about the “rules” a lot. “Can I do that…is that okay”. It’s okay to break with tradition. Just remember the comfort of your guests. This is probably one of the biggest events you’ll host. And remember the importance of the event…..you’re marrying the person of your dreams.